Write two paragraphs of minimum 500 words (total). In each of these paragraphs, reflect on one Rank category, and the skills that you most often use as Target or Agent. Please give one specific example for each skill. Fewer points will be awarded for general answers. Please also note that you must speak specifically about the ranking system, which means speaking to the ADRRESSING categories.
Here is an example of a specific story from my life where I used awareness skills. One day my friend was over and she was hanging out with my 3 year old. As she left, she asked for a hug from the 3 year old, and he responded by turning away. This indicated that he did not want to touch her or be touched. The message was crystal clear. When he turned away, my friend approached him and reached out and slapped his butt lightly, saying, “oh, so shy, I will just pat your tooshie” He looked unhappy, and the moment passed. I was horrified, but said nothing. I was just frozen in place. I still want to bring the issue up with her, but I am not sure how to talk about it.
Children’s bodily autonomy is violated constantly in our culture. When they say “no” in their own way (by turning away very clearly) they are ignored. Even when they say no very directly, using the word “NO!” they are still ignored, and people hug, kiss, and pat them against their wishes.